Women: Lets Start Lifting Each Other Up

She was sitting on my front steps with my sister in law. She was a friend of hers.

They were hanging out in their swimsuits, on my front steps, like normal people.

I laughed, shook my head, parked my car, walked up to the front steps and my sister in law introduced us.

She stuck out her hand.

“You are absolutely gorgeous. It’s nice to meet you. I love your house!”

I was stunned. It isn’t very often someone says something like that upon first meeting you.

She was a bubbly, smiley, ridiculously ripped, red-headed woman and I was a little intimidated. I invited them to come inside and she immediately started asking questions. We connected over fitness instantly and the fact that her dad was recruited by my team, the Steelers.

Every other word out of her mouth was some sort of genuine compliment. She made me laugh nonstop and we literally became friends instantly. I loved her confidence. I loved her ability to engage in genuine conversation. I loved her humor.

A few days later she joined us at the lake and we perfected our British accents and at that point we knew our souls were meant to be friends.

Since then we have been fiercely loyal friends.

She has moved states away and though we aren’t able to see each other as often as we’d like, nothing has changed. She is still the most hilarious and genuine soul and we can talk about anything.

Women have a tendency to do the opposite of what she does.

We tend to judge before speaking.

We tend to keep to ourselves instead of complimenting.

We tend to be bitchy toward each other instead of friendly.

Why?

We are fearful of being judged, but yet that fear motivates us to judge.

How much sense does that make?

Most days, I am not feeling confident enough to reach out and be friendly, but when I do confidence is all you see. Genuinely engaging with other people, just does something for me.

When was the last time you noticed something worth genuinely complimenting and said something?

For some reason, as women we believe we are in this alone. We aren’t ladies.

We are in this together, so lets start acting like it.

I challenge you to lift another woman up this week.

Get out of yourself and make another woman’s day.

XO,